“Kairos” is the Greek word for the right, critical or opportune time. Most couples who reach out still love each other, but they keep having the same argument or going quiet with each other. My work is helping you find what’s keeping you stuck and get back to working together.
If one of these sounds familiar, a free 15-minute Q&A is a good place to start.
A non-judgmental space where both of you can say what’s actually going on.
Honest perspective and real accountability, delivered with care.
Before coaching, I spent decades as a missionary, pastor, chaplain, and counselor. Of everything I did in those years, helping couples was my favorite, and it still is.
I’ve been married 49 years, and I’m a father and grandfather of six. About 15 years into our marriage, we were stuck. Our counselor gave us a picture: imagine you’re both on the same side of the table, facing the problem together instead of facing each other. That was the beginning of learning how to talk about hard things and make progress. We still use that reframe today.
If your spouse isn’t ready to come, you can start on your own. We’ll work on the part of the pattern that’s yours to change.
My approach is rooted in faith, and I welcome couples and individuals from every background. What matters most is that you’re ready to do the work.
M.Ed. Counseling, Xavier University · Life Coach & Certified Chaplain
Kairos Opportunities LLC
Most people who reach out are in one of these places. All of them are good starting points.
We experience enough pain that we must change.
We gain enough understanding that we want to change.
We receive enough grace and encouragement that we can change.
The goal is to get 1% better.
Change usually comes in small steps. Each session aims to leave you a bit clearer and steadier than the last, and we build from there.
For couples stuck in the same patterns who want to get back on the same team.
Learn moreStart on your own and work on the part of the pattern you can change.
Learn moreSmall groups of 3–6 people, 8 weeks, in person or online. Knowledge changes what you know. Community changes what you do.
Learn moreCoaching works best for couples who are stuck but not in crisis. If you’re dealing with abuse, addiction, or a recent affair, or you don’t feel safe at home, coaching isn’t the right first step. Reach out anyway, and I’ll help you find the right person.
Duane is a person who listens to hear and not to respond. He hears to see you. So many times my words say one thing but mean so much more. He is able to see through to the heart. Duane uses the term “1% better.” He is realistic that most change does not occur overnight. But he is there to encourage and speak openly and honestly to keep you on course. His honesty truly is a gift.
Duane helped me to recognize that there was so much more beyond the rhythms that my life had settled into. His insightful counseling uncovered what was holding me back and helped identify paths forward to craft a more fulfilled life and active faith. He helped me develop skills and strategies I can continue to use when challenges cross my path, to stay true to my purpose and keep growing incrementally each day. I am so thankful for the gift of Duane’s counsel and guidance.
I was a high-task CEO that Duane nurtured and coached into seeing the world differently, and just as importantly, how taking action does change that slice of the world. I heartily recommend Duane as a caring, nurturing person who does an outstanding job helping a person become who they can be.
Duane leads with true compassion for people. He has a keen ear and an open heart to hear your individual story. His approach is consistent and grounded, but I always knew he was listening to my needs. Guidance was based on my goals and desires. I highly recommend him as a trusted coach and counselor.
